Be timely and create a sense of urgency: Technically, invitations should be mailed 6ξ weeks prior to a wedding. In these busy times 10 weeks has become the norm. However, more than that is too early and can backfire. Instead of making sure people respond promptly, this tactic actually causes most people to put the invitation on the "to_do later" list. Also be careful not to confuse your need for deadlines on the room blocks with the final head count for the caterer. You don't need an official head count until about a month before the wedding for the caterer, seating chart and rentals. It is your guests' responsibility to make travel arrangements and hotel accommodations, so try not to stress too much about that in terms of timing for your replies.
Develop a secret code for replies: Some people are so excited to send their reply card back that they forget to write their name on it or their writing is illegible. A great fix is to number your reply cards so that when someone rsvp's with no name you'll know who it is. The most discreet way to do this is to write a small number in pencil on the backside of the rsvp card and keep a corresponding list of guest names and numbers so you can check them off as you receive them. You may be surprised at how many guests forget to write their own names on the rsvp cards!
by Ethan D. Arceneaux on Jul 21, 2018 Wedding Invitations